Which EFT?

Classical EFT, Tapping, Faster EFT, Positive EFT, Energy EFT,… And the list goes on! So what are the differences???

Here is a list of some of them with a very brief description.

 

Peter Donn with Roger Callahan

Peter Donn with Dr Roger Callahan

TFT (Thought Field Therapy)

When psychotherapist, Dr Roger Callahan, in the 1980s asked his client to tap on an acupuncture point under her eye for an incurable water phobia, he was astonished  that the phobia disappeared permanently.  This led him to develop a healing system called Thought Field Therapy or TFT which different sequence of points on the body are tapped on to release difference negative emotions.

Classical EFT

When Gary Craig, trained with Callahan in TFT, he wondered, since the number of tapping points was finite, what would happen if one tapped on all the points for every emotion instead of a specific sequence of point for each emotion. He found the results were just as good and the benefits were that it was very easy to learn.

As a  result, Craig created Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT which is now also called Tapping.

Gary Craig

Gary Craig

Classical EFT, as created by Gary Craig, involves rating a problem such as a negative emotion, pain, upsetting memory, addiction, phobia etc on a SUD (Subjective Units of Distress) scale from 0 to 10 where 0 is no intensity at all and 10 is the worst it could be.

You then repeat tap on the side of your hand while repeating a setup phrase 3 times that goes something like this:

“Even though I have this problem (eg anger/ headache/ birth trauma/ smoking problem/ fear of heights etc), I deeply and completely love and accept myself”

This is followed by twice tapping through a sequence of 8 points on the body.

This is known as one EFT round and after each round you assess your SUD rating until it drops to 0.

This is known as the short form of classical EFT. Originally there was a long form too which is rarely used. It includes the use of additional finger points and a process known as the 9-gamut.

For more information about Gary Craig and his latest Gold Standards of EFT developments, go here.

Gary Craig’s latest development is Optimal EFT

Nowadays many EFT users have developed their own EFT style. Here are some of the more popular ones:

 

Energy EFT

Silvia Hartmann

Silvia Hartmann

Developed by Silvia Hartmann, this technique replaces the setup tapping on the side of the hand with placing your hands in the centre of your chest and state the issue you are focussing 3 times with a deep breath between each. Then you tap on the EFT points once through which are mostly the same with the addition of the finger points. An EFT round is completed with hands in the centre of the chest again and three deep breaths. Energy EFT replaces the SUD scale with the SUE (Subjective Unites of Experience) scale where the scale ranges from -10 through 0 to +10. Negative numbers represent negative emotions, 0 is no emotion and positive numbers represent positive emotions.

Positive EFT

Positive EFT was created by Silvia Hartmann and employs the Energy EFT format. Instead of stating the issue while tapping, you tap on a positive feeling, quality or remedy that is needed to transform the issue.

Robert G.  Smith

Robert G. Smith

FasterEFT

Description to be updated.
Developed by Robert G. Smith, FasterEFT, where EFT stands for Emotional Focussed Transformations), integrates the most effective elements of EFT, BSFF (Be Set Free Fast) & NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). FasterEFT is a thinking system that uses a process called the A.R.T of Change to elicit and aim at past traumas, beliefs, and emotional patterns. A key element of FasterEFT is that it works more directly with the unconscious mind and how it creates a problem.  In terms of tapping, this system skips the setup section, uses a subset of the EFT tapping points and at the end adds the word Peace while holding the wrist to create an emotional association.

Choices Method

Pat Carrington

Pat Carrington

Choices Method, created by Dr Pat Carrington, makes use of classical EFT with variations to the setup statement. The “I deeply and completely love and accept myself” part of the setup statement is replaced, at various points within a session, with “I choose…” with the end of the statement relevant to the issue. So for example,

“Even though I am nervous about the speech I have to give, I choose to remember that I have practised well and have an audience who want to hear what I have to say.”

Matrix Reimprinting

Karl Dawson and Sharon King

Karl Dawson and Sharon King

Matrix Reimprinting, as created by Karl Dawson, helps to release upsetting memories by allowing you to interact with yourself at the time of the event and release the emotions and change the memory to a more positive one. The start of the process makes use of EFT finger points while focussing on an upsetting memory and then classical EFT. A subset of Matrix Reimprinting, Matrix Birth Reimprinting as created by Sharon King, allows to go back to the womb and reimprint your birth experience, which will change your energy levels, mood, and wellbeing in the present.

 

Steve Wells and David Lake

Steve Wells and David Lake

SET (Simple Energy Techniques)

A simplified adaptation of EFT, created by Steve Wells and Dr David Lake.  SET skips the setup statements and in addition to the standard short form classical EFT points, it includes the finger points and side of the hand.

PET (Provocative Energy Techniques)

Also developed by Steve Wells and Dr David Lake, PET is a unique integration of principles and techniques from the Meridian-based therapies (mainly SET), with the humorous and paradoxical communication style and techniques of Provocative Therapy.

Philip Davis & Christine Sutton

Philip Davis & Christine Sutton

PTT (Picture Tapping Technique)

The Picture Tapping Technique is a way of using EFT or other Energy Psychology techniques along with the power of metaphor and the imagination. It involves drawing a quick picture about how you feel about the issue and then tapping on what you see on the picture. This process is repeated until the issue is resolved. This method was developed by Philip Davis and Christine Sutton.

 

 

 

Deborah Donndelinger

Deborah Donndelinger

Family Energetics

Created by Deborah Donndelinger, combines the concepts of Family Constellations with classical EFT and is used to release issues where ancestral history contributes to the underlying causes. A business version of Family Energetics called Business Energetics was developed by Sejual Shah

Tapping

Nick and Jessica Ortner

Nick and Jessica Ortner

Tapping is another word that refers to EFT. Paul McKenna makes use of tapping in his “I can make you thin” programme and others. One of the most popular uses of the term Tapping is within the Tapping Solution as created by Nick and Jessica Ortner.  They generally use classical EFT.

The way I work is to include strands from many of the above styles in order to best fit the client. If you would like to book a session to see what it is like, go here. To download a free classical EFT manual, go here or to attend a workshop to learn classical EFT which can be a step towards becoming an AAMET practitioner, go here.

I am not familiar with all styles mentioned above and the list is by no means complete so do let me know if you have any suggestions/ additions.

 

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Releasing Anger Towards Son with EFT and Family Constellations

With huge gratitude to my client for permitting me to share a video of her EFT session, I am posting a 30 minute video summary of a 1 1/2 hour session we had together over skype.

The issue – Disproportionate anger towards her son

The issue my client wanted to address was disproportionate anger towards her 3 year old son. She also has a daughter with which this is not an issue.  Reading through the questionnaire she completed for me, I felt that the best way to go would by using a technique called Family Energetics which was introduced to me by another EFT practitioner, Sejual Shah, and created by Deborah Donndelinger. Family Energetics combines the powerful techniques of EFT with Family Constellations in a way that is easy to use on skype by inviting the client to step into a space of her choosing and then inviting people or aspects to step into the space with her and then use EFT to release feelings arising.

Family Energetics setup

I invited the client (1:00) to step into the space of her choosing, I then invite her to place herself (1:35) and her anger in that space (1:54). After getting some details about the anger, I ask her how she feels about the anger (2:51) to which she replies sad. When asked to rate the sadness on a scale from 0 (no sadness at all) to 10 (most sadness) she replied that it is way over 10 (3:07). After a round of EFT, she rated the sadness at 10 (4:01).

Tapping on various aspects of the constellation

After another round of EFT, the sadness is still a 10 (4:47).  My sense was that there was a shift so I asked her if the 10 was the same or different to the previous one (5:01) and she acknowledged that it was different – “a less helpless 10″. For those of you familiar with EFT, this demonstrates a shift in aspects.

Further investigation shows that the sadness is connected to all the men in her family that have served in the army for generations.  After a discussion about this, I invited her to bring in all the family members who had served in the army into the constellation space (7:14) which brought up emotion so I invited her to tap on those feelings without words to allow the feelings to flow through her and release (7:40).  As she tapped the image of these army men changed and many seemed more relaxed. She felt that for her brother, who is currently in the army, it isn’t safe to feel sad or angry.

On further testing, the sadness was still a 10 but this time a “loose” 10 (9:27) with some anger that was rising about the wasted lives or these men.

Another round that the sadness had gone (10:37)  and my client commented that this felt “extraordinary”.

Checking in with the constellation image, it now showed that all the men are relaxed except for her brother who was in a cage which again brought up the sadness (11:09).  After a round of EFT my client felt that her brother was saying that this it is not her business and not hers so she should not take that on (11:44).  At this point I suggested say some Family Constellation style healing sentences while tapping on her fingers (12:23):

“Dear brother – I’ve been carrying this sadness for you. Its yours, not mine, and with love and respect I hand this back to you.”

This brought a big sense of relief so then we did the same with all the other members of her family who were soldiers which brought to her mind loving memories of her grandfather being a grandfather, not a soldier (14:00).

I then invited my client to reflect back to the scene on the beach to see how that had changed (14:12).  She reflected back that her family were crowding in on her (16:08) but the overwhelming feeling is her mother casting a shadow on her which feels oppressive so we tapped on that (16:43) which brought feelings of breathlessness and her heart was racing which both felt good and the fear of what if I let go of all this stuff.

Another round of tapping (17:24) gave rise to feelings of wanting to leave the beach and her family as they were not going to move and give her space. So at this point I suggested her saying some more healing sentences to her family whilst tapping (18:08):

“I need to step into the sunshine now and I will take all the goodness you gave me. This is where I came from and I honour that. And I need to turn now to face my future.”

This brought about feelings of sadness  (18:52) towards her father. A round of tapping changed the sadness into disconnection and a numb forcefield (19:07). A round of tapping (19:33) made no change to the numbness.

At this point (20:15) we had a dialogue about her feelings and it was interesting to observe that the effects of EFT continued to shift her feelings as we were talking from:

  • numbness
  • to fear of letting the numbness go
  • to feeling that her father is a complete stranger
  • to feeling that she has done everything she possibly could to get his approval
  • to the realisation that he has always love and approved of her.

This realisation brought about feelings of relief and the fact that she has wasted a lot of time trying to get something she had all along.

Focussing on back to the beach, my client noticed she feeling very comfortable sitting chatting to her father (22:33).

She now became aware that she was feeling annoyance (23:24) towards her brother so I asked her to say Transform (part of Peter Donn‘s healing system) and place her hands in the centre of her chest which then became sadness and another Transform reduced it.

I then checked to see how she was feeling about her mother and the sadness was now focussed on her. My client felt she had been treated like one of her mother’s dolls that she played with when she was young so we tapped on that (24:51) which brought her relief that surprised her.

She then had an overwhelming sense of wanting to bring her children into the picture (25:25) and I offered her some healing sentences whilst tapping. She then added her own:

“I’ve not done it how I wanted to because I haven’t been able to but I can now. I love you enormously and I am sorry that it wasn’t the way I wanted it”.

She then reported that she felt “amazing, grown up and responsible”.

At this point we closed the constellation by thanking her family members and saying that she could come back to this beach whenever she wanted.

Positive EFT

We then did some Positive EFT as created by Silvia Hartmann on a feeling she wanted to feel more of towards her son. She chose basic love (28:47).

Checking in with the original issue

In conclusion I asked her how she felt about her initial issue of anger towards her son (30:26).

She replied that her anger had nothing to do with her son and that she had been quite frightened of it and she doesn’t feel that any more. She feels that she would be genuinely surprised if she lost her temper with her son in that way again.

Follow up comments from my client

A few days after the session she emailed me to let me know how she was getting on:

“Thank you so much for the session.  It was truly amazing.  I can’t tell you how good I feel now.  

 I thought I knew what was coming because I’ve had a good EFT session with another practitioner releasing miscarriage trauma but I was not expecting quite such an amazing session.  

 I found you to be very intuitive and gentle and using EFT combined with the Family Constellation method was a really effective and frankly extraordinary mix.  

 I suppose I thought it might be all fluffy nonsense but the impact is unquestionable - it really has made a significant and immediate difference to how I am feeling and my general energy levels.  It is hard to see how saying some words and tapping on different points can do anything at all but I know it did because I felt the changes and I still feel the benefits.

 All the good things from the session are still gently reverberating inside me.  My love for my son has definitely increased or rather my connection to it.  I feel much more compassionate and patient with him. 

 I’ve been away this weekend with my parents and one of my brothers and his family and it has been a lovely time.  I have felt free to enjoy them all and let anything frustrating, annoying or unhelpful to me just wash over me.  I didn’t realise all this army stuff was going on inside me but now that its out I can see how it has been effecting me.  With all the centenary memories of the first world war there are a lot of reminders all around of war, particularly in my parents home as my father is very involved in writing histories of the war.  I found looking at some of the photos and such like this weekend very moving in a helpful way.  I feel connected with the sadness of warfare but not dominated by it. 

I had a moment with my son where I think I would have been angry with him a week ago but this time I found myself defending him, protecting him as he let a cascade of typical 3 year old emotion wash over him rather than being impatient or angry with him.  It felt really good and his little face afterwards looking at me with such love was really special.  A little later he tracked me down across the house saying ” I have something important to say to you Mummy.  I love you from top to bottom!”  It was so sweet.  I really felt he’d observed a change in me and was responding to it.  If I have no other benefits from EFT and your priceless session, this little moment was worth everything.  And to be honest, I am sure I will get more and more from EFT.”  HH

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My Morning Run Dilemma

Neckerchief from Seasalt

Neckerchief from Seasalt

In you live in my village, you will have definitely seen me at some point on my 5k jog round the block. I never look forward to jogging but ALWAYS feel better when I have finished – energised and ready for the day.

Today I tried something different. I listened to my favourite music using earphones. Why haven’t I tried this before? Earphones never stay in my ears. I must have been made differently from other members of the human tribe – some kind of design fault? I have tried sticking the earphones to my ears but the cellotape gets caught in my hair. I bought myself a sports headband but it was too tight and gave me a headache. Today I decided to give it a go with a “neckerchief” I bought recently. So here are my conclusions about the pros and cons of listening to music while jogging!

Tamara Jogging smallPros
Fun music
Time goes quicker
Look forward to jogging
Distraction

Cons
Less aware of my environment eg cars
Past lots of people seeing me look very silly – needed to pull neckerchief right over my ears (see photo!)
Couldn’t hear what people were saying as I past them – hopefully it was just “hi” – I just smiled politely!
Didn’t notice the beauty of the day and the nature around me

Will I listen to music again? Yes, but not every day.

I realised that my jogging time is also like a meditation. A time to be with my thoughts and feelings. There are so many distractions in life without adding more. As a culture we don’t create time for being – just allowing thoughts to arise without judgement.

Being present with thoughts and feelings that are unpleasant without trying to fix them and push them away creates space in ones mind.

How do you create space for yourself in your life when you are simply present with yourself?

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Should you drink water during an EFT session?

Glass WaterAbsolutely yes is the the most obvious answer. EFT, like any mind-body treatment, can release toxins into the body and staying hydrated can reduce the likelihood of uncomfortable symptoms which may occasionally arise such as headaches, tiredness, aching or nausea arising.

This week we ran a 3 day EFT training and since we had odd numbers, I took part in the pair work.  One of the exercises is to practice a technique called Tearlesss Trauma in which one works on releasing the intensity of feelings about a previous experience or trauma that one would like to avoid!  Since we run these workshops quite regularly, it gets harder for me to think up something to work with. So, since I am training in Family Constellations and recognise the impact that ancestral trauma can have on the individual, I decided to work on a trauma from the Second World War that affected my grandmother and her parents.

war refugeesDuring the session I noticed that my throat was dry and I needed a drink.  Instead of drinking I suggested to my partner that we tap on the fact that my throat was dry and that I needed a drink.  During the tapping an image came to mind of my great grandparents who died during the war and may not have had enough water to drink. With that thought came guilt that I do have enough water and they didn’t. So we tapped on the guilt and released it.  From there, arose the desire to honour the courage and bravery of my grandmother and great-grandparents to save my grandmother’s life for which without this I wouldn’t be here.  Another round of EFT and then arose a fear of being able to live a full life in honour of them.  With more tapping the fear subsided.  If I had drunk the water when I was thirsty, would I have been able to connect with this aspect of the trauma?  As it happens I do often struggle with feeling dehydrated and drinking enough water so I am curious to know if there is a connection!

If you would like to learn more about EFT and experience the power of this incredible technique, then check out our website for our upcoming workshops. For a free manual to get started straight away, go here or for a one-to-one session go here.

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EFT during Pregnancy for Hospital Anxiety & Bereavement

pregnancy_silhouetteWith permission I share this case study: Caroline* was 24-36 weeks pregnant with twins when she contacted me to book 3 EFT skype sessions. This was her 3rd pregnancy having miscarried her second one.  The themes that we explored were fear of hospitals, fear of the unknown, wanting everything
to be perfect and  and increasing levels of trust and acceptance.

When we started to work with the “hospital anxiety”, it emerged that her brother had died in hospital and she had strong images and memories of smells that brought that trauma right back into her being.  As I realised we would be needing to work directly but gently with that trauma in order to release the association of hospitals with that memory.

Before starting, I invited Caroline to place her hands on her belly and say to her baby:

Dear little one
These feelings are my feelings, they are not your
I am working on releasing them now
You are safe
I love you very much

This next paragraph may take a leap of faith for some people but I find it helpful to invite pregnant women to say this in sessions as, in my experience, babies can take on their mothers’ feelings but believe that these feelings belong to themselves. Alternatively, a baby may choose to take on her mother’s feelings in order to protect her mother. Stating the above words, can help a baby separate herself from her mother’s feelings.

We worked on the memory of Caroline’s brother’s death in hospital in a gently way using the EFT Movie Technique which simply involves tapping on a title that represents the event.  On asking Caroline to rate the intensity of this title on a scale from 0 to 10 with 10 being the most intense, she said 10.  After a few rounds of tapping the intensity dropped but would not drop any further as she said she was experiencing tiredness and resistance to letting this go. So, as well as tapping directly on the resistance and tiredness, we also tapped on how it would be if she could let the negative emotions associated with the event while still keeping her brother’s memory in her heart.

Here is a tapping round based on what we said:

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EFT Tapping on karate chop point for setup statement

Setup statements on karate chop point:

Even though I am tired and resistant to letting this go, I am deeply and completely accept myself
Even though I don’t want to let this memory go I accept myself just as I am.
Even though I don’t want to let this go because I don’t want to forget him I choose know that he will always be in my heart

Statements for tapping points:

Crown: tired
Beginning of eyebrow: resistant
Side of eye: I don’t want to let this go
Under eye:  I don’t want to forget him
Under nose: tired
Under lower lip:  I will never forget him
Collar bone: I don’t want to let this go
Under arm: What if I could let these upsetting feelings go while still keeping him in my heart
Crown: Who would I be if I could let this go
Beginning of eyebrow: What would I be thinking if I could let this go
Side of eye: What would I be feeling if I could let this go
Under eye: What would I be telling myself if I could let this go
Under nose: Open to the possibility of letting these upsetting feelings
Under lower lip: Just a little
Collar bone: In my own time and my own way
Under arm: While keeping him in my heart

After tapping with these statements, Caroline was able to release the rest of the intensity of that trauma. Since the focus of the sessions was on birth preparation, we did not complete the healing on her brother’s death but instead continue with the hospital anxiety which had now changed with concerns such as not wanting stuff done to her, being prodded, baby taken away or being messed around with.  We did some more rounds of tapping on these statements and then tested the level of hospital anxiety which had reduced from 9 out of 10 to 7 out of 10. Not a great jump but this sometimes happens when there are several contributing factors.
Positive EFTAs we had run out of time for this session, I finished with a round of positive EFT created by Silvia Hartmann. So I asked her what quality she would like to feel more of right now about the birth and she said trust.  I asked Caroline to rate her level of trust from -10 (the opposite of trust) through 0 (not here nor there) to +10 (complete trust). She said she was at a  3-4. The EFT round went something like this:

Hands on Heart Centre:

I want to be able to trust
Deep breath
I want to feel trust
Deep breath
I want to feel even more trusting in every cell of my body
Deep breath

Statements for tapping points:

Crown: Trust, deep breath
Third Eye: I want to feel trusting in every cell of my body, deep breath
Beginning of eyebrow: What does trust look like to me, deep breath
Side of eye: What does trust feel like in my body, deep breath
Under eye:  Open to the possibility of trusting myself, deep breath
Under nose: Open to the possibility of trusting my body, deep breath
Under lower lip: Open to the possibility of trusting my baby, deep breath
Collar bone: Open to the possibility of trusting my partner, deep breath
Under arm: Open to the possibility of trusting the hospital staff, deep breath
Crown: Open to the possibility of attracting only helpful, kind supportive people into my birth space, deep breath
Thumb nail: Open to the possibility of trusting the birth energy, deep breath
First finger nail: Open to the possibility of allowing trust into every fibre of my being, deep breath
Second finger nail: Open to the possibility of allowing trust into every cell of my body, deep breath
Third finger nail: Open to the possibility of trusting the process of birth, deep breath
Fourth finger nail: Open to the possibility of trusting myself, deep breath
Karate Chop: Allowing trust to infuse every cell of my being

Hands on Heart Centre:

I choose trust in each and every moment
Deep breath
I choose to trust myself and my baby
Deep breath
I choose trust
Deep breath

I then asked her to rate her level of trust and it had gone up to 8-9.  On speaking to her at the next session, she reported she felt really good in the days in between our sessions and on testing her level of hospital anxiety, it had gone down to a 1-2.  Sometimes EFT can keep working for a few days after a session.

If you liked this blog, check out some of my other posts about EFT and pregnancy:

EFT for Fear of Losing Control during Birth

Surrender to Conception, Birth & Motherhood with EFT & Family Constellations

Does your baby sleep through the night yet? Part 1

Does your baby sleep through the night yet? – Part 2 (EFT video)

Was your birth less than perfect?

Healing Abortion Trauma using EFT/ Emotional Freedom Techniques/ Tapping

If you are pregnant and would like some information about how EFT can help you, go here or to book as session, go here.

*name has been changed for confidentiality

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Guys and Dolls and reasons for a Common Cold

Last night I watched the classic fun musical Guys and Dolls.  In the story Miss Adelaide develops a cold and according to the lyrics of the song she sings:

Miss Adelaide Cold
“The average unmarried female,
Basically insecure,
Due to some long frustration may react
With psychosomatic symptoms,
Difficult to endure,
Affecting the upper respiratory tract.”

Although this may sound amusing or condensing to modern ears, it is interesting to hear what  Meta Health says about the connection of thoughts and feelings to physical symptoms.  Meta Health is a “revolutionary approach to understanding how our thoughts, feelings and behaviours our health and personal development are fully integrated. It provides us with a precise bio-psycho-social model which enables health professionals to find root mental and emotional cause and behaviourial meaning of any illness. It works by using the body’s own biological survival programming and scientifically maps physical symptoms, via the brain, to their primal cause.

According to The Biogenealogy Sourcebook by Christian Fleche, which is based on the theory of Meta Health, “a cold is associated with experiencing something displeasing or connected to a sense of anxiety experienced as an intrusion”. So if a woman is wanting to marry a man  but he keeps giving excuses and messing her around (as in Guys and Dolls) one can see how this may relate.  That is not to say that every woman who has difficultly getting the man she loves to marry her will suffer from colds!  It depends how she interprets that information.

If you experience a physical symptom, it is often interesting to research the possible root cause and then use EFT to release emotional charge in that.  For examples of how this has been used read:

Thyroid Lump Disappears after EFT

Knee Pain Caused by Burn on My Arm

In our EFT workshops, we teach how to use EFT on physical symptoms and on Level 2, we often introduce the Meta Health model and Biogenealogy Sourcebook as great tools to further increase success with releasing physical issues.

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EFT for Fear of Losing Control during Birth

EFT at Natal Hypnotherapy Study Day

EFT at Natal Hypnotherapy Study Day

Yesterday I was asked by the lovely Maggie Howell to give a talk at a about the benefits of using EFT for birth at a Natal Hypnotherapy Study Day. I was met by a lovely bunch of women passionate about making a difference about birth who were willing to try out some tapping to heal some of their own issues relating to fertility, birth and parenting. I asked for 5 volunteers to be willing to have some EFT at the front of the group and after only about 5-10 minutes on each, they experienced moderate to massive relief on their issues.

 

EFT is so wonderful for the motherhood journey for so many reasons.  Here are some of them:

  • It is quick, easy and safe to learn.
  • Pregnant women can use it on themselves to help with physical complaints when they can’t take medical drugs.
  • During pregnancy it is great for releasing fears and focussing on having a positive birth experience
  • It can be used to assist natural or medicalised labour
  • During labour, the woman can do it on herself or her partner/ birth supporter can do it on her or for her (pain, fear, failure to progress…)
  • After birth it can release birth trauma
  • It can be used with the baby for sleep. feeding or crying issues
  • With the mother it can help with post-natal blues/ depression
  • For mothers with children it can help with toddler tantrums, bullying, exams and more
  • Before conception for fertility especially if the reasons are unexplained.

EFT dovetails really well with other therapies and many of the people who train to become practitioners are body or talk therapists or birth practitioners. One way to use it for birth preparation would be to tap while listening to a birth visualisation to increase positive feelings while releasing any blocks to a positive birth outcome.

Here is an example of how one would use EFT with one of the most common pregnancy fears - losing control during labour.  So I thought I would share an EFT script to support you or your client with this issue, whether you are a natal-hypnotherapist, birth professional or pregnant woman.   Fear of losing control is common because we live in a society where being in control in the cultural norm.  Maybe it stems from the Victorian era of “stiff upper lip”.  Expressing emotion has only recently become more acceptable and still difficult for many.  Common concerns about losing control may be:

  • what will people think of me
  • what will my partner think of me
  • what if I can’t cope
  • what if I end up asking for an intervention I don’t want

These concerns can be reduced or even eliminated using EFT.  If you are not already familiar with EFT, you can download a free manual here.  Once you are familiar with the points, tap along to these statements:

Setup statements on karate chop point:

Even though I am scared of losing control, I am open to the possibility of accepting myself and this fear.

Even though I am scared of what people will think of me, I accept myself just as I am.

Even though I am scared of losing control because….. I choose to remember that this is part of the process.

Statements for tapping points:

Crown: scared of losing control

Beginning of eyebrow: I can feel it in my … <where in your body>

Side of eye: What will people think of me

Under eye:  What if I can’t cope

Under nose: The unknown

Under lower lip: I’ve never done this before

Collar bone: Losing control

Under arm: If I lose control <xxx> might happen

Crown: Scared of losing control

Beginning of eyebrow: This feeling

Side of eye: Allowing it to be fully present

Under eye: I’ve been avoiding feeling this

Under nose: I’ve been pushing it away

Under lower lip: Allowing this feeling to be here

Collar bone: So that I can release it fully

Under arm: And let it go

Obviously these words are very generic and may not apply to you so please do tailor this script with words that resonate with you.  The more specific the wording applies to you directly, the more likely you will have positive results.  To attend a workshop to learn more about EFT or to become a practitioner, go here.  For EFT for birth professional workshops, go here.  To book a one-to-one session in person or by phone or skype, go here.

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